The world is not broken.
And neither are any of us!
The human soul does not want to be fixed. The human soul does not need to be fixed. Or saved!
It simply wants to be witnessed. To be seen. To be heard. And to be championed exactly as it is.
As a coach, when we make that kind of deep bow to the soul of a suffering person, to one of our clients, it’s that respect to the individual, respect “for” the individual, that reinforces the soul’s innate healing resources. The only resources that can truly help the sufferer make it through and move forward.
Coaching is about helping our clients stretch beyond their current capabilities. A new goal can seem daunting. They're seeing the challenge through the eyes of who they are now, rather than the person they will become through the process of working towards this goal. It is therefore our duty as coaches to remind our clients that by approaching this undertaking step by step, they will indeed gain these essential skills and grow into the person they need to be in order to achieve this goal.
Of course, this brings up two important questions...
“Who do you need to become to achieve this goal?”
“How will you be different once you've actually achieved this goal?
What if I told you that all this courage and this self-confidence that I’m asking you to conjure up was already there within you? And that maybe it just got buried beneath years of self-doubt and years of confusion. Confusion about who you really are. Who you really were. And what you’re really capable of.
Trust me, I’m not a magician. I’m not a voodoo witch doctor. And I’m not some overly educated, whiny, bespectacled therapist who’s going to tap into all of his years of research and all of the hours upon hours of sad patients lying on a sad IKEA couch and bemoaning about their sad childhood. And then simply suggest that maybe mommy didn’t hug you enough and maybe daddy didn’t encourage you enough. And how sorry and I am that you were always the last one to get picked for dodgeball. And how truly mean those people on FaceBook are for not liking your most recent post.
Screw those people. And screw the past, too!
Here you are now. Today. And over there is where you want to be. Tomorrow. And to be totally honest with you, you already have all of the answers about how to get there. It’s just going to take someone like me to help you come up with those answers. To figure out those answers. By asking the right questions. And by asking the important questions.
What a lot of people don’t understand is that just by entering the arena, shall we say, you’ve already won 90% of the battle.
Now, not to get too Uncle Sam and all patriotic on you, but an amazing quote by Teddy Roosevelt, the 26th President, says...
“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strongman stumbles; or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs; who comes up short again and again; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows, in the end, the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly…”
And that’s precisely what my Signature 8-week Program and I are prepared to turn you into. A god damn, kick-ass warrior, totally unafraid to enter the arena!
As the British writer C.S. Lewis said, “You can’t go back and change the beginning. But you can start where you are and change the ending.”
I mean, here’s the thing about discovering the very best version of yourself The Kick-Ass version of yourself.
1. To find your passion in life you’ve got to first become painfully
familiar with yourself. And painfully aware "of" yourself.
Step into the arena
2. You need to know what drives you. What you’re naturally good at.
And what you’re willing to fight for.
Step into the arena
3. What do you genuinely enjoy? What inspires you? What excites
you? What scares you? What makes you pee in your pants?
Step into the arena
4. What do you pretend to like? What do you really suck at? And
what lies have you been telling yourself about your skills? About
your natural talents? About your natural abilities? And about your
gifts? What are you really made of?
Step into the god damn arena already!
I’ll see you there...